How To Announce Your Engagement
He’s asked, you’ve said yes and the ring is on your finger. And now you need to tell everyone about it. So it is time to address the big question, how do you announce your engagement?
The answer is very much down to personal opinion, and whatever makes you feel the most comfortable. For some people this means a cheeky relationship status update on Facebook, for others it means posting a fairly cryptic photo on Instagram (‘#isaidyes’) sans all the intimate details. If you are the more traditionally-inclined then you may prefer just ringing round your family and friends and personally telling them the news; letting the world find out as and when.
There is no right answer, there is only what is right for you.
I guess some of you may even be wondering why this even warrants a blog post. Just tell everyone and get on with it, right?
Perhaps. But let’s look at some of the things you might want to consider.
Firstly, if your parents or your fiance’s parents are not on Facebook or Instagram, do you really want all of your virtual friends to find out before them? Even if this doesn’t necessarily bother you then think about how your parents or the in-laws may feel about this. Let’s be honest, you don’t want to start married life on the wrong foot with them.
Secondly, not everyone will be happy for you. Let me just clarify so we’re all on the same page here. Social media is a haven for people to compare themselves to others and end up feeling completely dissatisfied with their own lives. Jealousy breeds contempt. And if one of your fb friends has just gone through a nasty break-up or divorce it may be hard for them to congratulate you on your happiness. It’s just the way the world works. So if you would rather not have your engagement announcement tainted by a jaded comment from your friends, then perhaps think twice about announcing your news via a status update.
Finally, if you are at the stage in your life where you are getting engaged, chances are you have friends who are getting engaged too. The last thing you want to be doing is stealing the attention from one of your friends who has just announced that they’re getting hitched too. If they have posted about it on Facebook or Instagram and this is the way you want to do it too then by all means go for it. But it is common courtesy to leave it a week or so before making your own announcement. I get that you’re excited and want to share your happy news as soon as possible but you don’t want to be accused of stealing the limelight. Let them have congratulations heaped upon them and then go right ahead. The silver lining: you have time to book yourself a manicure so your ring photo looks super sophisticated.
So now we’ve gone through all the technicalities and you know the etiquette of announcing your engagement. But what if doing it on social media isn’t the one for you?
Well, here a few more individual ways to let everyone know you’re officially off-the-market:
1. An Engagement Card
Personally I love this idea. It is a method that is favoured by our cousins across the pond and I think it’s one you can have a lot of fun with. What’s cuter than you and your partner-to-be getting creative together and brainstorming a cool photo idea to show everyone your newly engaged status. Below are a couple of examples of how to nail this concept:
2. Create a Wedding Website and send the link to your friends
Yes, this involves a little more work but you can create a website for relatively no money these days. And you may find that this website comes in handy in the run-up to your wedding as a way of keeping your guests updated of all the details they need to know. You can post the story of how you guys met and it’s a great method by which to let your friends and family know all about your gift list. Yes, that old chestnut.
3. An Engagement Party
Of course, I’m going to advocate a party for this occasion! This is a really sweet way of getting all of your loved ones together and telling them the news in person. You can keep the real reason for the party secret until the day-of and come up with a great-cover up instead. Don’t want to go too over the top? Just invite everyone over to your place for some afternoon tea and make the announcement during a toast. But hopefully you’ll only be getting married the once, so why not go all out?
Yes, the internet is convenient and the instant comments and attention very fulfilling at times, but for the personal things in life it’s worth considering the alternative ways. That may just be my view, but as a Wedding Planner it’s my job to provide you with all of the options and let you make an informed decision. So here’s hoping you’re informed.
Comment below with any additional engagement announcement ideas you guys have! I’m always up for hearing new inspiration!